[Baren shrugs once. That's fair. He can't fault anyone for privacy and he doesn't seem to have any intention of prying.]

Then - even if you don't want to talk about it with me, you ought to find someone else.

Not talking to her's probably only going to hurt you both, even if you think the truth you're hiding is that painful. Making that decision for her isn't fair, and even if you're trying to get her to resent you, it'd be easier if you gave her something tangible to hold a grudge against.

Right now she has enough good memories of you that she won't be able to hate you, if that's what you want.